I want to be a supermom

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Get yourself a cup of tea and crackers because this is a long post. 😄

Everybody’s situation is unique yet everybody goes through similar and common seasons in life (hardships, trials, easier times, happy times, etc.)

During hard times sometimes the only thing that can help is seeing what the Ultimate Book says. It helps to read these following verses out loud, write them out and post them all over your house. And read them constantly.

“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christʼs power may rest on me. That is why, for Christʼs sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”
‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭12:9-10‬ ‭NIV‬‬

When we rely on our own strength alone, we get terribly discouraged when we don’t rise up to our own expectations. When we admit we are weak and cannot deal the best way with _____ (insert whatever it is we are struggling with) then we are turning it over to God. “God, I cannot deal with my kids the way I should, I don’t have enough patience and I get angry and I’m frustrated. Please guide me and give me wisdom how to act.”

“Keep asking, and it will be given to you. Keep searching, and you will find. Keep knocking, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who searches finds, and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭7:7-8‬ ‭HCSB‬‬

We won’t get answers overnight, or at least, not all of them at once. 😭 But it will happen!

“Yet true godliness with contentment is itself great wealth. After all, we brought nothing with us when we came into the world, and we can’t take anything with us when we leave it. So if we have enough food and clothing, let us be content.”
‭‭1 Timothy‬ ‭6:6-8‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Re-evaluate your expectations of yourself and your life. What is the end result you’re trying to achieve? Write it down. What steps do you need to take to achieve that? What things do you need to eliminate out of life to have TIME to do the steps that help reach your goal? 📱🤳🏻📺🍹🛍🗑 (Personal example – I want to be raising kids after God’s heart & having them behave appropriately. This means I need to get some knowledge about what God’s heart is like, and WHAT IS appropriate behavior & good manners. This means I need to read the Bible (quality, not quantity) and ask God to reveal himself & his wisdom to me. This means I need to start spending more PURPOSEFUL time with kiddos. Showing them how to behave in certain situations, etc. But since I spent so much time cleaning up messes, organizing, etc.- I needed to do a major decluttering project. Got rid of a bunch of toys, hid some more, put up purposeful things up to remind myself of my goals. Realized too much time was spent on social media which wastes time and sometimes has bad consequences where Comparison Monster shows up, so had to limit that. Voila! there’s a bit more free time to do what NEEDS to be done. {That’s just one part of my life, still many parts that I’m trying to figure out like meal planning, and being conscious of spending $, and how to do a quick manicure/pedicure at home that looks pro. So if anyone here has tips for that, I’m ALL EARS!})

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law.”
‭‭Galatians‬ ‭5:22-23‬ ‭HCSB‬‬

If I declare I am a Christian and am filled with the Holy Spirit, it’s kind of a necessity to go about life showing those fruits. The Message explains it like this: “But what happens when we live God’s way? He brings gifts into our lives, much the same way that fruit appears in an orchard—things like affection for others, exuberance about life, serenity. We develop a willingness to stick with things, a sense of compassion in the heart, and a conviction that a basic holiness permeates things and people. We find ourselves involved in loyal commitments, not needing to force our way in life, able to marshal and direct our energies wisely.”

“Fathers (or mothers, in this case), don’t stir up anger in your children, but bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭6:4‬ ‭HCSB‬‬

Regarding fruits of the spirit, what things do I want to teach my kids from that? I have to model it. Ask how I can do _______ with kindness. Or patience. Or gentleness. And do it like that. Kids are observers like no other. Ellie was picking her nails and I told her “No! Don’t do that!” And she looks at me with a bewildered expression and ASKS (I kid you not), “but you can do it? You did it yesterday.” Ouch. Burn.

“Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭22:6‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up.”
‭‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭6:6-7‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Personal convictions can be instilled strongly when they’re kids. When I was a kid my family was very conservative and more legalistic than not. One absolute no-no was females wearing pants, especially jeans. So get this, in the 6th grade I had enough nerve to do a public service and told a girl in my class that because she’s wearing jeans, she’s a boy, and she might go to hell for it. Can you believe it? Yeah, she freaked out, cried, told the teacher, I got in trouble, the end. Obviously the goal is to teach kids to grow up and mature and eventually think for themselves. They SHOULD question whatever boundaries were set on them, and whatever personal convictions were instilled into their hearts, and determine how and why, and what’s the benefit of it. It seems a lot of people don’t question the traditions they grew up with, and end up adopting it the point where they won’t even exercise their mind to extend the possibility that other options are acceptable. This encourages me to teach values that withstand the test of time.

Life can be hard and this toddler/ baby season is harder. I rely on God’s grace and try to remember to extend this grace to myself and to those around me. The picture is me feeling like a supermama, usually when both girls wake up and I carry them downstairs. That’s when I feel I can tackle the world. 😄

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